Today, during a session, I had a touching conversation with one of my dear clients. As a mobile massage therapist, I often find that the therapy room can be anywhere – a living room, a cozy bedroom, or even a peaceful garden. This time, it was Sarah’s serene backyard, where she felt most at ease.

    As I set up my table, Sarah confided in me, “Do you ever feel like some people just secure your insecurities?” while lying down on the table.

   Her voice was soft, almost hesitant. I could feel the weight of her words as she spoke, and I knew this was important.

  I gently placed my hands on her shoulders, offering both physical and emotional support. “Yes, Sarah, I do,” I began, my tone filled with compassion. “You’re not alone. It’s so common to feel like the very people we trust can sometimes make us doubt ourselves more.”

   I explained why this happens: “Sometimes, people project their own insecurities onto us. For example, if someone feels inadequate in their career, they might criticize your professional choices to feel better about themselves. Others might use your doubts to maintain control over you. Think of a friend who always points out your flaws when you achieve something, making you second-guess your success. And then, there are those who simply don’t realize the impact of their words. A family member might make offhand comments about your appearance, not understanding how deeply they affect you.”

  Sarah nodded, her eyes closed, as if absorbing every word. “So, what can I do?” she asked softly.

 I smiled warmly, feeling grateful to offer her some guidance. “First, self-awareness is key. Recognize when someone’s words or actions trigger your insecurities.

    Journaling can help you identify patterns and understand your emotional responses.

   Next, set healthy boundaries to protect your mental space. For instance, if a coworker’s negativity drags you down, limit your interactions with them.”

   I continued, “Surround yourself with uplifting, positive people who build you up. Join groups or communities that share your interests and values, like a local sports team or a book club.       Practice self-love and affirmations to reinforce your self-worth. Start your day with positive affirmations like, ‘I am capable,’ or ‘I deserve happiness.’

  And if it’s someone you care about, communicate how their actions affect you. Use ‘I’ statements to express your feelings without sounding accusatory, like, ‘I feel hurt when you comment on my weight.’”

 Sarah’s face softened, a small smile forming. “Thank you,” she whispered. “This really helps.”

  As I finished the session, I couldn’t help but feel a surge of warmth and purpose. “Remember, Sarah, you are amazing just the way you are. Don’t let anyone dim your light. Shine bright and believe in yourself.”

    With a heart full of compassion and a renewed sense of connection, I packed up my table and watched Sarah stand a little taller, knowing she was taking a step towards a brighter, more self-assured future.